Separation of Church and Hate



Lesbian mother, Robin McGehee, was kicked off the PTA of St. Helen’s Catholic School for Participation in Fresno’s “No on 8” Rally

Robin McGehee, a lesbian mother in Fresno California, was recently kicked off of the PTA of her five year old son’s Catholic School because of her appearance at a “No on 8″ Rally.  This occurred despite the church’s prior knowledge of the sexual orientation of the boy’s lesbian parents.  St. Helen’s Catholic School claimed that her appearance at a “No on 8″ Rally went against “church teachings”.  Apparently the church teachings allowed the school to accept a known lesbian couple who was able to pay its hefty tuition and the church teachings permitted the membership of a paying known lesbian on the PTA.  One must conclude that the church teachings only condemned the known lesbian from implicitly “outing” the school by exercising her First Amendment right to participate in a rally.  Is this consistent with …the “don’t ask don’t tell” passage of the holy scripture??  Or is this just another example of a church’s willingness to “turn the other cheek” when it’s profitable to do so?  


I believe that church leadership is so out of touch with its base that individual closeted “gay” churches, like St. Helen’s, are afraid (with good reason) of being “excommunicated” and ostracized like gay people if its tolerance of unrepentant homosexuals is outed to “upper management”.  Despite the love, trust and funds we provide these institutions, when faced with the prospect of administrative discipline they will abandon us.

There are a few exceptions.  These sparsely numbered exceptional churches are paraded and honored by our community.  And I am not saying they shouldn’t be.  But the fact that we feel the need to publicly “praise” these rare beacons of light in a sea of religious darkness accentuates our plight.  Sunshine should light the religious seas we travel.  Our ability to worship without secrecy or fear should be an unadulterated right, not an arbitrary privilege.  A church’s right to accept gay people without secrecy and fear should likewise be an unadulterated right. 

Father Geoffrey Farrow  was ousted as a Catholic Priest for his opposition to Proposition 8

The Rev. Geoffrey Farrow expected an uproar.

Father Geoffrey Farrow was defrocked as priest of the Catholic Church because of his outspoken opposition to proposition 8.  Despite pressure placed on him by his own bishop urging priests to support the church definition of traditional marriage and advocate for Proposition 8, Father Geoffrey told his congregants that he felt obligated to “break a numbing silence” about church prejudice against homosexuals. 





The sham that churches love the homosexual but hates his/her homosexual acts is nonsense.  I have been labeled a “homosexual” because I engage in homosexual acts.  To condemn my homosexuality is to condemn a part of who I am.   Furthermore, the initiation and passage of constitutional amendments like proposition 8 blatantly shows us that the church and many of its parishioners do condemn us as people beyond the bounds of our “homosexual acts”.  The right of gay people to marry has nothing to do with homosexual acts but everything to do with love and commitment.  The rationale of many churches, parishioners and their lofty spokesperson, Supreme Court Justice Antonin Scalia, in banning gay marriage, is that we as people are inherently immoral, unfit and inferior.  That is not an articulation of love for us as people.  It is condemnation tantamount to hate.  It implies that our “homosexual acts” only demonstrate that we as individuals are so immoral, unfit and inferior that our marriages would obliterate the sanctity of holy matrimony itself.   Their proposals to statutorily ban gay people from adopting or fostering neglected and abused children only further reveal their hatred for us and not just our acts.

Following a direct financial appeal from its president, Mormons provided 50% of Proposition 8 donations


$16,000,000 (Mormon) / $32,000,000 (Total)


The Mormon church is currently tax-exempt under section 501(c)(3) of the Internal Revenue Code. This status requires an organization to not be in an action organization or a group that attempts to influence legislation as a substantial part of its activities, according to the IRS Tax Guide for Churches and Religious Organizations (Publication 1828).The IRS decides what constitutes substantial.   

According to the official resource for News Media, Opinion Leaders, and the Public of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, on June 28, 2008, a letter was sent from the First Presidency of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints to Church leaders in California to be read to all congregations on 29 June 2008.  The letter stated “We ask that you do all you can to support the proposed constitutional amendment by donating of your means and time to assure that marriage in California is legally defined as being between a man and a woman. Our best efforts are required to preserve the sacred institution of marriage.”


Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. talked about the immense power of economic withdrawal to fight discrimination in his “Mountain Top” speech.  He said:

“Always anchor our external direct action with the power of economic withdrawal. Now, we are poor people. Individually, we are poor when you compare us with white society in America….[But] collectively we are richer than all the nations in the world with the exception of nine…We [1968 African American community] have an annual income of more than thirty billion dollars a year, which is more than all of the exports of the United States, and more than the national budget of Canada…Now that’s power right there, if we know how to pool it.”

Rosa Parks - Bus Boycott by Ann Alto.                   

montgo11The civil rights movement started with the economic withdrawal of the public transportation system in Montgomery Alabama.  What started off as a one day boycott, went on for a year until the United States Supreme Court ordered integration of public transportation. The bus company almost went bankrupt and voluntarily desegregated in an effort to lure African Americans back.  The boycott also had a significant impact on the shops in Montgomery because fewer African Americans were coming into the city center. While store owners opposed integration, they faced losing their livelihood if the boycott continued.


Unlike the disproportionately poor $30 billion African American community of 1968, the gay community is disproportionately rich.  We can’t even fully comprehend the magnitude of our collective wealth because we have divided ourselves up into tiny little factions.  But others know the strength of our collective economic resources.  That’s why people and entities who secretly believe that we are immoral, unfit and inferior pretend to “tolerate” us, just like St. Helen’s.   We can stop this shameless exploitation and harness this tremendous economic strength to our collective benefit by pooling our financial resources together to deter our enemies and reward our allies.   Money talks.  It worked for the Mormons.


I recognize that each faction of our broader community may have different priorities.  Many people don’t care about gay marriage.  But one civil right leads to another.  Despite our different priorities we all have the same fervent goal to achieve the full range of civil rights enjoyed by every other American.  We can achieve those rights despite the formidable obstacles set before us if, driven by the urgency of this pivotal moment in history, we join together as one unified force and develop a cohesive strategic plan.  The passage of proposition 8 has galvanized our nationwide community.  Now is the time to use that momentum and determination to achieve the rights to which we are entitled as American citizens.